Godwin Abbe: How we celebrated Christmas with “pap and akara” By John Mayaki
I was already getting lonely. Even this Christmas feels lonelier than ever, as the man who would normally invite me to share a simple celebration of “pap and akara” is no longer here. General Godwin Abbe, a former military governor of Rivers and Akwa-Ibom states, former minister of defense and a man of towering principles, has left us. To say it the way it is, he has left me.
General Abbe was not just a military officer; he was a friend and this came about not because of my wish but he decided this himself. I mean a man who, despite his status, cherished a unique bond with a “bloody civilian journalist.” He invited me into his home, his world, and his philosophy. His kindness knew no bounds, even as his discipline and candor were unflinching.
I remember one particular visit to his home in Benin City, an invitation for a one-on-one conversation. Being the generous person I am, I brought someone along. It was a decision I regretted almost immediately. The General, never one to mince words, made it clear: “John, if anyone invites you for something next time, go alone. The same people you think are your friends today may betray you tomorrow.”
As much as his words stung, they stayed with me. Time has proven him right more times than I’d care to admit.
Over pap and akara, a meal he deliberately chose for its simplicity and health benefits, we talked about life, leadership, and his storied career. He was a man of moderation, shunning the excesses of gluttony and living instead by measured principles.
I’ll never forget the day I jokingly asked him, “Why akara and pap? Why not rice and chicken like everyone else during Christmas?” He smiled and said, “John, life isn’t about impressing people with what’s on your plate; it’s about what you bring to the table.” That wisdom stayed with me, shaping how I approach life and my priorities.
Another vivid memory was during a quiet evening at his home. After sharing stories of his military days and his time as Minister of Defence, he leaned back and said, “You know, leadership isn’t about barking orders. It’s about inspiring trust. You can’t demand loyalty; you earn it.” That was the essence of General Abbe; a leader who inspired through action, not just words.
He was also a man of immense generosity. I remember how he once asked if I had ever considered studying abroad or expanding my horizons professionally. When I hesitated, unsure of where to begin, he offered to connect me with his network, a small gesture for him, but a monumental opportunity for me. That was his way; always opening doors, always lifting others. He was an educationist; school proprietor.
General Abbe’s legacy in Akwa Ibom State stands tall. He laid the groundwork for what is now a thriving state, fulfilling the dreams of its founding fathers for prosperity, unity, and peace. He narrated to me how, during his tenure, he worked tirelessly to elevate the state across all sectors. He was not just a leader but a visionary, selfless in his pursuit of development and dedicated to the people he served.
Born in 1949, he joined the Nigerian Army in 1967 and steadily rose through the ranks. His illustrious career included roles such as Battalion Commander, General Officer Commanding 2 Division, and Commander of the National War College.
He also left an indelible mark on Nigeria’s political landscape, serving as Minister of Defence and later as Minister of Interior under the late President Umaru Musa Yar’Adua’s administration. General Abbe’s contributions earned him numerous national and international military decorations.
Yet, beyond the accolades and achievements, he was a man who valued humanity. Whether discussing his passion for squash, hunting, or masonry, he lived a life of balance and reflection.
On another occasion, I saw a side of him few did – a man deeply spiritual in his own way. He once shared how his faith in God guided his decisions, even in the most turbulent times of his career. “A soldier must know when to fight and when to kneel,” he said. That balance of strength and humility defined him.
As he prepared for his 76th birthday next month, it’s heartbreaking to think that he won’t be here to mark it. But his legacy – his selflessness, discipline, and unwavering commitment to peace and progress, will continue to inspire us all.
Tomorrow, I will commemorate him in my own way: with pap and akara. A simple tribute to a complex, extraordinary man. Rest well, General.
